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Tuesday, June 26, 2012

June 26: The "holy @&%#!" in "holiday" a real celebration
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June 26: The "holy @&%#!" in "holiday" a real celebration

Maybe it’s biological clock backlash.

Sometimes, I really resent calendars and deadlines. They can be great for keeping things on track and they can cause an undue degree of stress in an already stress-infested environment. I suppose the trick is in knowing when to say when, as is so often the case.

So this past Sunday, I said “when,” which sounds a lot nicer than “leave me alone.”

I realize now that the real problem with artificial deadlines is that they can trample real milestones. Today is one of those days.

June 26, 2001. The first day I saw a picture of my daughter.

The day I knew everything was going to be not only all right, but in fact, fantastic. The day I went from feeling like a giant loser to feeling like the biggest winner of the most high-stakes gambit of my life.

I have never felt any different for one moment in the ensuing 11 years. June 26. A day that will rock infinity. For me. For my family. For my faith.

Thank you. 

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