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Sunday, April 22, 2012

Upcoming memorable dates in infertility history

May 5, 1969:

Because in the end everything often revolv(ers) around The Beatles:

 “Get Back” and “Don’t Let Me Down” released. I hereby nominate “Don’t Let Me Down” as the official theme song of National Infertility Survival Day®.

This year, the release date precedes National Infertility Survival Day by just one day. Although John was singing to Yoko at the time, I can’t think of another song that so rawly, exquisitely captures the kind of longing we feel as we fight our way out of the infertility box.

I’m in love for the first time.

Don’t you know it’s gonna last.

It’s a love that lasts forever.

It’s a love that has no past.

In the end, John, of course, did get Yoko (or did she have him?). The couple endured fertility struggles, famously recording the heartbeat of their infant on “Life With The Lions,” released just four days after “Get Back”/”Don’t Let Me Down.”

Says an editorial review by the Rykodisc label:

“Life With The Lions creeps sideways into the details of Yoko's miscarriage.”

Today, we'd recognize their plight as a case of secondary infertility; John and first wife Cynthia had son Julian and Yoko had daughter Kyoko.  

Hindsight tells us, “Don’t worry, Yoko. Sean Ono Lennon will be along in six years, five months."

And when I find myself in times of trouble, I try to remember to take deep breaths and tell myself, hold on. 

To my daughter of dreams, who turns 11 years, 8 months today:

I’m in love for the first time.

Don’t you know it’s gonna last.

It’s a love that lasts forever.

It’s a love that has no past.

I love you forever and a day beyond that.

In the end, I was not let down. I get to be your mom. It was destiny. Bashert. Tian yi.

Karma. Sometimes instant; always satisfying.


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